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DIY date night jar filled with activity papers

DIY Date Night Jars With Intimate Ideas

Making your own date night jars is straightforward. Find a clean empty jar. Cut paper into small slips. Write one activity from the list on each slip then fold them. Drop all the slips into the jar. On your chosen evening one of you reaches in without looking and pulls out a single slip. Follow the instructions on it. The system takes away the stress of choosing what to do. You can prepare separate jars for different levels of intensity if that works for you.

1. Side Spoon ✨

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Action

Lie on the bed on your sides with both of you facing the same way. The person in the back wraps their arm around the front person. You can stay still or move your hips slowly against each other. Talk quietly or put on soft background music. This position feels safe and allows you to stay close for as long as you want.

Pro-Tip

Place a pillow between your knees if you need extra support for your hips or back.

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The back person can kiss the neck and shoulders while holding this position.

2. Seated Position ✨

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Action

Sit on the bed or floor facing your partner with your legs wrapped around each other. Keep your backs straight and hold onto one another. You can rock gently together or just stay in place while you look at each other. This setup works for both quiet moments and more active movement.

Pro-Tip

Use cushions under your legs if the position feels uncomfortable at first.

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Add small hip movements while maintaining eye contact the entire time.

3. Feather Touch ✨

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Action

One person lies down while the other uses a soft feather to trace lines across their skin. Start at the shoulders and move down the back or front. Go slowly and change direction often. The person being teased should stay as still as possible and describe the sensations.

Pro-Tip

If you lack a feather try using a clean makeup brush or even fingertips instead.

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Cover the eyes with a scarf to heighten the sense of touch.

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4. Bridge Position 🌶️

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Action

The receiving partner lies on their back with knees bent and hips lifted off the bed. The other partner kneels between the legs and holds the hips up. Find a rhythm that works for both of you. This changes the angle and creates different pressure points.

Pro-Tip

Put a firm pillow under the lower back to make holding the position easier.

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The person on bottom can control the movement by shifting their hips up and down.

5. Share Some Fruit ✨

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Action

Prepare a plate of cut melon or similar soft fruit. Sit close together and take turns feeding pieces to each other using only your hands. Go slowly and maintain eye contact between bites. You may kiss or lick fingers as you go.

Pro-Tip

Choose fruit that is not too juicy to avoid making a big mess on your sheets.

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Let some juice drip onto skin and then lick it off during the feeding.

6. Pretzel Pose ✨

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Action

Lie on the bed and twist your bodies together like a pretzel. One person can lift a leg over the other while you face each other. Hold the position for several minutes while you breathe in sync. You do not need to be flexible to try a simple version.

Pro-Tip

Stretch gently beforehand so neither of you pulls a muscle during the pose.

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Move against each other slowly while keeping the twisted position locked.

7. Slow Activity ✨

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Action

Choose a few slow songs on your phone or speaker. Stand up in your living room or bedroom and hold each other while you sway to the music. You can keep your clothes on or remove them gradually. Whisper to each other or stay quiet.

Pro-Tip

Clear some floor space ahead of time so you do not trip over anything.

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Let your hands wander over each others bodies as the songs continue.

8. Draw a Card 🌶️

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Action

Use a set of playing cards where each one stands for a specific touch, kiss or position that you decide on ahead of time. Shuffle them well and take turns pulling one from the deck. Follow the instructions on the card you draw.

Pro-Tip

Make a separate list that explains what each card means so there is no confusion.

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Include a mix of gentle and more intense options in your card list.

Final Tip

These jars give you ready ideas for nights in. Reuse the same slips for months and add new ones when you find them. The project takes little time or money. Make one this weekend to try it out.

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