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First Position for Gamer Couples

Couples who play games together often look for other shared activities. The first position is a common way to begin physical closeness. One partner lies on their back. The other lies on top facing them. This setup allows you to see your partner's face and touch easily. It works well in a bedroom setting. The following eight items give specific actions to take before during and after. They help you pay attention to each other and adjust as you go.

1. Prepare The Space ✨

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Turn off all screens and put controllers away in another room. Make the bed with clean sheets and add two pillows for support under the head or lower back. Close the curtains and door for privacy. This removes distractions so both partners can focus on the moment and each other.

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Check the bed for any squeaking sounds before you start. Keep a glass of water on the nightstand in case you need to pause and drink.

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Do this preparation together after you stop playing your game so the shared activity carries over into the bedroom.

2. Get Into Position ✨

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Have one partner lie flat on their back in the middle of the bed. The other partner moves on top and rests on their elbows to support their own weight. Line up your bodies so you can look at each other without straining your necks. Adjust leg positions until it feels stable.

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The top partner should keep elbows bent at first to prevent too much pressure on the bottom partner during the start.

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The bottom partner can wrap legs around the top partner to pull them closer during the activity.

3. Start With Kissing ✨

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Once in position lean down to kiss your partner on the lips. Move to the neck or shoulders with slow kisses. Notice how your partner reacts to different pressure. Keep most of your weight on your arms so you can move freely while kissing.

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Use your lips and tongue based on what your partner seems to enjoy most in the moment.

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Switch between soft kisses and more intense ones while you stay locked in the same position.

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4. Draw a Card 🌶️

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Keep a deck of cards on the nightstand before you begin. Draw one card when you want to change something. Let the card number decide how many times to repeat a movement or how long to continue. Set the card aside and continue in the position.

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Decide what each number range means before the session starts so there is no confusion in the moment.

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Use the card color to decide between slow movements or faster actions during your time together.

5. Control The Speed 🌶️

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Begin with very slow hip movements from the top partner. Increase the speed gradually only after both people feel ready. Check in with short questions about what feels good. Slow down again if either partner needs a change of pace during the activity.

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Count slowly to five with each movement at the beginning to maintain control over the rhythm.

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Alternate between three slow movements and three faster ones several times in a row.

6. Keep Eye Contact ✨

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Look directly at your partner while you are in the position. Keep your faces close enough to see expressions clearly. If it feels intense you can look away briefly then return to eye contact. This helps you read each other's reactions during the entire time.

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Focus on one eye or the space between the eyes if direct eye contact feels too strong at first.

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Try to hold the eye contact during the moments when movements become more intense.

7. Use Your Hands 🌶️

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Run your hands over your partner's back shoulders or sides while staying in position. Use light pressure at first then adjust based on feedback. The bottom partner can reach the top partner's back or arms. Touching adds more physical sensation to the experience.

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Ask your partner to tell you what kind of touch feels best in different areas of the body.

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Match the hand movements to the same rhythm as your hip movements for better coordination.

8. Finish And Rest ✨

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As you near the end reduce the speed of all movements. Stay in the first position until both partners finish. After you are done remain close together without moving for several minutes. You can talk about the experience or simply lie quietly next to each other.

Pro-Tip

Have a towel or tissues ready on the nightstand for quick cleanup after you finish.

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Continue light touching and kissing while you rest in or near the same position.

Final Tip

These steps give you a good way to try first position. Remember to communicate with your partner the whole time. Adjust anything that does not feel right. With practice you will find what works best for the two of you.

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