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Miles apart does not stop you from trying new positions. You and your partner can use video calls to show each other what to do. Pick a quiet time for the call. Place your device where it has a clear view of your body. Use the eight ideas below one at a time. Start slow and see what feels right. Describe your actions as you go. This approach lets you stay close and learn together until you can meet in person again.
Action
Fill your mug with tea or coffee. Sit in front of the camera and take small sips. Tell your partner about your week. This step helps you ease into the call. Make sure the camera shows your face clearly at first.
Pro-Tip
Keep the mug in view at the start of the call to make it feel shared with your partner.
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Ask your partner what they would like to see you do once you put the mug down.
Action
Lie on your back on the bed. Place the camera above you or at the end of the bed. Keep your legs bent and apart. Look straight at the camera. Move your hips up and down in a slow rhythm.
Pro-Tip
Use pillows to lift your hips so the camera captures more of the movement from that angle.
Spicy Twist
Tell your partner exactly how the position feels for you as you do it.
After dark
Action
Position the camera behind you. Get on your knees with your back to the lens. Lower your hips and raise them again. Use your hands for balance. Move in a way that shows the full range of motion.
Pro-Tip
Check the camera view before you begin to ensure it shows what you intend to show.
Spicy Twist
Change the speed of your movements based on what your partner says during the call.
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Action
Sit with your legs crossed in front of the camera. Lean forward slightly. Rock your body back and forth. Keep your hands on your knees or thighs. This position works well for close up views of your upper body.
Pro-Tip
Sit on a firm cushion to keep your posture stable and make sure you stay in frame during the call.
Spicy Twist
Use your voice to describe the pressure and sensations you experience.
After dark
Action
Set the camera at the edge of the bed behind you. Get on your hands and knees. Arch your back and look over your shoulder at the camera. Move your hips back and forth with control.
Pro-Tip
Place the device on a stack of books if you need to adjust the height for the best view.
Spicy Twist
Pause at times to ask your partner if they want you to go faster or slower.
Action
Lie on your side facing the side camera angle. Bend your knees and keep your body in a curved shape. Use one hand to support your head. Make small movements with your hips while staying in position.
Pro-Tip
Test the side angle in advance so the camera shows the full length of your body.
Spicy Twist
Guide your partner on how they should move on their end to match you.
After dark
Action
Lie on your back and pull your knees toward your chest. Hold your legs with your hands. Position the camera to show from the side or above. Rock gently in this compact pose.
Pro-Tip
Make sure your grip on your legs is comfortable so you can hold the position longer.
Spicy Twist
Focus on your breathing and let your partner hear how it changes.
Action
Sit upright on the bed facing the camera. Move your hips in circular motions. Keep your back straight and shoulders relaxed. Use your core muscles to control the movement. This shows good control on camera.
Pro-Tip
Place a pillow under you for added height and comfort during the movements.
Spicy Twist
End the call with a few minutes of quiet eye contact after you finish.
Final Tip
Pick any of these positions for your next video call. Talk about them afterward to see what you both liked. Small changes to the camera position can make a big difference. Keep the focus on what works for your relationship.
Common Questions
Use lamps placed to the sides rather than overhead lights. Set your camera or phone at an angle that shows your full body. Do a short test call to adjust the height and distance. Natural window light during the day works well too.
Agree on what you will do and what is off limits before you start. Use apps that offer private calls. Do not record the session unless you both want to keep it. Stop right away if either person changes their mind.
Signal offers strong privacy features for calls. WhatsApp calls are encrypted from end to end. Avoid apps that store your video data. Check the settings each time to confirm protection is active.
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