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Set up a space on your bed. Cover it with towels. Dim the lights. Warm the oil by placing the bottle in warm water. One person lies down first. The other pours the oil and rubs it in. You switch after a few minutes. Keep movements slow. Tell your partner if the pressure is right. This setup works at home without any special equipment.
Action
You both lie on your sides in the same direction. The partner behind pours warm oil onto the shoulders of the person in front. They use their hands to rub the oil down the back and sides. Keep your bodies touching during the massage.
Pro-Tip
Make sure the oil is not too hot. Start with a small amount so it does not get too messy on the towels.
Spicy Twist
The partner behind can breathe on the neck while they rub the oil.
Action
Sit with legs crossed facing your partner. Wrap your legs around each other if possible. Pour oil on the upper back and shoulders. Rub it in with your hands while holding the pose.
Pro-Tip
Use pillows under your knees if it is hard to sit this way for long.
Spicy Twist
Look at each other the whole time you apply the oil.
Action
One partner lies flat on their stomach. The other sits next to them. Pour a line of oil down the spine. Spread it out to the sides with long strokes from the center.
Pro-Tip
Ask the person on the bottom if the pressure feels okay as you go.
Spicy Twist
Add light scratches with your nails after the oil is on the skin.
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Lie on your back with knees bent and feet flat. The other partner kneels between the legs. Pour oil on the chest and stomach. Massage in circles with both hands.
Pro-Tip
Place a pillow under the hips to make the arch easier on the lower back.
Spicy Twist
The bottom partner can move their hips slowly during the massage.
Action
Lie on your side. Lift the top leg and rest it on your partner. Pour oil on the thigh and inner leg. Rub it in with smooth movements up and down.
Pro-Tip
Support the lifted leg with a pillow if holding it becomes tiring.
Spicy Twist
Move your hands higher up the leg with each pass.
Action
Sit facing your partner with your legs out straight. Pour oil on each others chests. Spread the oil while you stay close and hold the position.
Pro-Tip
Breathe at the same pace to stay in rhythm with one another.
Spicy Twist
Whisper to your partner during the massage.
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Action
Both lie on your sides facing each other. Hold each other close. Take turns pouring oil on the back and rubbing it in with slow strokes.
Pro-Tip
Wipe excess oil with a towel before you get up at the end.
Spicy Twist
Stay in the hold for ten minutes without talking.
Final Tip
Try these poses on your next night in. Switch who gives and receives the oil. It is a simple way to spend time together at home.
Common Questions
Massage oil or coconut oil works best. They feel good on skin and wash off easily after.
Place the bottle in a bowl of warm water for two minutes. Always test on your wrist before you pour it.
It works for beginners. Go slow and use small amounts of oil. Stop if anything feels wrong.
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