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8 Ways to Change Missionary

One person lies on their back. The other lies on top facing them. This is the missionary position. Here are eight ways to change it. Some use pillows. Others change leg placement or hip movements. Each gives exact steps to follow, a practical tip, and one twist. All can be done in your bed. One uses a deck of cards. The rest need no extra items. Choose one and try it next time you are together.

1. Look at Each Other ✨

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Action

Get in the missionary position with faces close. Keep your eyes open and look at your partner for the entire time. Breathe in and out together. Rock your hips back and forth slowly. Say short words about the feeling.

Pro-Tip

Start with five seconds of eye contact if it feels hard. Increase the time each time you try it. This gets easier with practice.

Spicy Twist

Gently hold the sides of your partner's face with your hands while you look at each other.

2. Lift The Hips ✨

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Action

Put a pillow under the hips of the person on the bottom. This raises the pelvis area. The person on top can kneel between the legs. Move in small circles with the hips instead of straight in and out.

Pro-Tip

Test the pillow thickness first. Add or remove to get the right height for both people. Talk about the angle during the activity.

Spicy Twist

The bottom person can tilt the hips up more at certain times.

3. Legs on Shoulders 🌶️

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Action

The bottom person lifts both legs up and rests them on the top person's shoulders. The top person moves closer and holds the legs in place. Keep the faces near each other. Use steady movements.

Pro-Tip

Ask if the stretch feels okay in the legs or hips. Lower the legs if there is any pain or discomfort.

Spicy Twist

The top person can move the legs slightly apart or together during.

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4. Grind The Hips ✨

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Action

Use the missionary position. Instead of moving in and out, press the hips together and make grinding motions. The bottom person wraps legs around the top person's waist. Keep the pressure steady for several minutes.

Pro-Tip

Set a timer for twenty minutes to stay in this mode. It requires you to slow down and pay attention to the contact.

Spicy Twist

Use your fingers to trace lines along your partner's spine as you grind.

5. Support The Back ✨

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Action

Place one or two pillows under the lower back of the bottom person for support. The top person keeps elbows on the bed near the head. Make small movements with the hips. Kiss the neck and shoulders at the same time.

Pro-Tip

Pillows reduce any back strain. Remove them if they shift out of place during the activity.

Spicy Twist

Wrap a soft item around the wrists for light restriction.

6. Hold The Hands ✨

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Action

In missionary position stretch the arms above the head. Lace the fingers together and hold tight. The bottom person crosses ankles behind the back. Keep the eye contact going through the movements.

Pro-Tip

Squeeze the hands at different times to signal what feels good. This gives a way to communicate without words.

Spicy Twist

Gently pull on the hair at the back of the head.

7. Match Your Breaths ✨

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Action

Get into missionary position. Focus on your breathing and try to match the in and out with your partner. Start the hip movements only when breaths are in sync. Pause every minute to reset the breathing.

Pro-Tip

Practice the breathing while clothed first to get the timing right. This makes it easier when you are naked.

Spicy Twist

Stop all movement when you breathe out and restart on the next inhale.

8. Draw a Card 🌶️

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Action

Have a deck of cards with different position ideas ready. Draw one card while in the missionary position. Add the action from the card to your current setup. Keep the main position the same.

Pro-Tip

Look at the card together before you start the activity. This avoids any surprises that one person does not like.

Spicy Twist

Draw the card with eyes closed for an extra element of surprise.

Final Tip

Try one of these the next time you are in bed. Follow the steps. Talk to your partner about which parts felt good. This lets you decide what to try again.

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