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Prepare your room by dimming the lights and playing soft music. Warm some oil and start with a back massage. This gets your bodies ready for close contact. Choose positions that let you stay in one place without rushing. Pay attention to your partner's reactions and adjust as needed. The positions work best when you take time to breathe and move together. A pillow can make some of them more comfortable by supporting your body.
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Lie on your back and have your partner get on top facing you. Keep your legs bent and feet flat. Move your hips up and down in a slow rhythm. This lets you maintain eye contact and control the pace easily.
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Put a pillow under your lower back to change the angle and reduce any discomfort in your hips.
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Rub oil on your bodies before you start so your skin glides against each other.
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Lie on your sides with your partner behind you. Bend your knees slightly for better access. The movements stay small and controlled. This position requires almost no energy so you can stay in it for a long time.
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Wrap one arm around your partner to feel more connected during the activity.
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Keep your eyes closed and focus only on the physical sensations.
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Sit on the edge of the bed. Your partner sits on your lap facing you with legs wrapped around. Hold each other and rock back and forth slowly. This setup is good for kissing and talking quietly.
Pro-Tip
Use your hands to support your partner's back to make the position more stable.
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Breathe in sync with your partner to increase the feeling of closeness.
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Lie flat on your stomach with your legs slightly spread. Your partner lies on top of you from behind. The contact is full and the movements are limited. This is useful when you want minimal effort from both sides.
Pro-Tip
Turn your head to one side to breathe comfortably throughout.
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Have your partner kiss your neck and shoulders while in this position.
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Lie on your back and lift your legs onto your partner's shoulders. Your partner kneels in front of you. This changes the angle of entry and lets you relax your upper body completely.
Pro-Tip
Use your hands to hold your thighs if keeping legs up feels tiring after a few minutes.
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Add oil to your legs for a smooth feeling during movement.
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Get on your hands and knees on the bed. Your partner stands or kneels behind you. Keep your arms bent to lower your upper body. Move back and forth in a steady slow pace.
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Place your forearms on the bed to make it more comfortable for your wrists.
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Have your partner reach around to touch your chest area.
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Lie on your back with a pillow under your hips to raise them. Your partner kneels between your legs. Lift your hips slightly as you move together. This position works the legs less than standing ones.
Pro-Tip
Choose a firm pillow that does not flatten under your weight.
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Apply a small amount of oil to the contact areas first.
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Your partner lies on their back. You straddle them and lower yourself down facing them. Control the speed with your knees and hips. Lean forward or back to find what feels best.
Pro-Tip
Rest your hands on your partner's chest for balance and support.
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Move in small circles instead of just up and down.
Final Tip
These positions give you options for a calm night together. Pick one or two to try. Go slow and tell your partner what feels good. Finish by cleaning up and drinking some water.
Common Questions
Coconut oil or almond oil are common choices. They feel good on skin and wash off easily. Always test on a small area first to avoid irritation.
Lay down several towels on the bed to protect the sheets. Warm the oil by rubbing it between your hands. Set a calm mood with low lights and quiet music.
Oil can break latex condoms so it is not recommended. Use a water based lubricant with latex condoms instead.
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